Empowering Questions – How to Use them to Engineer Permanent Transformation

In this module we look at the natural process of questioning and how to make it work for you. Asking empowering questions will instantly shift your state of being in any situation, but the temptation to fall back to disempowering questions means we need to train our awareness until we establish the habit.

In one of the previous modules we looked at owning the human traits that most irritate us in others, because the irritation is really just an expression of our own internal denial of these traits in ourselves, an attempt to externalize them to avoid them. The irony is that the more you disown and disassociate them the more these traits tend to show up around you. “What you resist persists”. (If you missed our previous newsletters and modules and would like to get a back-issues you can find them on our blog under the newsletter category)

Understanding the Process

The process of enlightenment is really a process of collapsing the polar opposites of duality into a coherent whole, one step at a time. That’s why I often make the point that enlightenment is a process rather than a finite state or destination. Its a process of expanding our understanding of ourselves, our wisdom, which translates into more empowered interaction with the world around us and a more enjoyable experience of life overall. “The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask”.

The Advantages of Asking Empowering Questions

As we learn to ask more intelligent questions we develop and gain access to higher levels of consciousness and awareness, which some have interpreted as higher frequencies. These levels of consciousness have been similarly defined by many different explorers of human development. To date there are 8 identifiable states, and it is recognized that the system is emergent, meaning new states will emerge as humanity evolves.The most important questions you can ask yourself relate to your underlying beliefs. Our beliefs are arranged in a hierarchal structure, so the most fundamental beliefs act as a foundation for other beliefs higher up the hierarchy. At the most fundamental level, our beliefs about where we fit into the world profoundly affect all our other beliefs. If we perceive the outside world as threatening and dangerous we develop a the 4 base persona quadrants and asking empowering questionspersona based on the need for protection, whereas if we perceive the outside world as non-threatening we develop a persona based on openness. These beliefs, which are imprinted during childhood, but also affected by traumatic experiences throughout our lives, can be altered through specific methods. The diagram represents how our perception of the world around us dictates the basic characteristics of our persona. In which quadrant do you fit? It is important to understand that these characteristics are not as permanent as were previously thought, there are numerous ways to re-imprint our basic beliefs. One of these is to overwhelm the underlying belief with enough contrary evidence derived from our own personal experience, and simply involves asking the right questions.

Engineering Permanent Transformation

To permanently elevate the level of consciousness we operate in, it is not enough to merely remap events from our past. Although necessary, this will only begin the process. We need to assume a more intelligent mode of questioning and defining our experience as a way of life, giving rise to a more balanced and enlightened perspective, and a more enjoyable experience overall. Over time our subconscious and our physical processes – the way our brain is wired and its chemical processes, will align themselves with our new perspective, becoming habitual and relieving us of this initial mental effort of having to manipulate and controlling our perception.

To get our mind into this new habit we need to begin to ask questions which provide alternate perspectives to those we have become accustom to. For instance, instead of getting annoyed at finding one’s self in a long cue at the bank or supermarket, ask yourself questions which offer new perspectives.  What are the benefits of spending this time standing still? How can I make effective use of the time? Is there anyone around I can connect with? Another example is when we get aggravated by something someone around us does. When and where have I done the same thing? What do I do that may aggravate others? What benefit or advantage did the experience offer me?

Think about the question “why”, as in why is this happening?, or why do I have to …? Why fundamentally infers resistance and denial. “How” questions are far more empowering. Replacing it with a “how” question fundamentally accepts things as they are and seeks for options. For example, “how can I use this situation to my advantage?” is so much more powerful than “why is this happening to me?” It automatically assumes a position of power and authority.

Enjoy transforming the everyday questions you ask into more enlightened and empowering questions!
Have a fantastic month ,
Here’s to your Accelerated Personal Evolution!

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Graham & Monika Burwise